Traveling as a couple presents a myriad of challenges – some of which arise as a direct result of mistakes made by the couple. Whether you're planning to travel with your partner for the first time or you've only traveled together on a few vacations, you're sure to make a myriad of mistakes figuring out how best to work together and support each other.
When we started traveling, we were wasting time with some silly reasons that often got in the way of the trip. And it's only with day-to-day life, with experiences that we realize how we could improve. Now, we are less susceptible to mistakes and fights and, instead, we have experiences of amazing trip.
So we're sharing what we think are ten mistakes every couple makes when traveling (and how to overcome them)!
spend some time apart
One of the most important things we tell all couples when they go on their first trip together is to spend time apart. Make time for yourself as an individual, whether you're at home, on vacation together, at a family gathering, or even on your honeymoon.
It is imperative that you keep your identity, hobbies and private time in a relationship. We make a point of spending a little time apart every day, whether it's simply for a workout, coffee or a nice walk around town. 🇧🇷
try to do everything
There is no reason in the world for you to make everything you see on Instagram, blogs, etc. Frommers is a guide, not a checklist.
When you visit a new destination, you might feel like doing, experiencing and seeing everything. Of course, you must be adventurous, but don't let that compromise your sanity.
Make sure you schedule downtime and don't overdo it. After all, couples are more susceptible to fights when they are tired and stressed.
So there's the advantage of doing a good planning and with well-distributed hours!
Assign Duties – divide tasks
Many relationships are one-sided. If this is the case for you already, when you are at home, well, you can bet it will be the same way on the road.
At the beginning of a relationship, it's natural to want to impress your partner. But be sure to assign tasks while traveling so you don't overwhelm yourself with responsibilities and give your partner the opportunity to help create the trip they want.
We separate the tasks so that invariably I cover the logistics and organization tasks, and she plans the activities during the trip, looks for great restaurants, etc.
make a plan
A fatal mistake you are likely to make while traveling as a couple is not planning. Sure, spontaneity can be fun, but a lack of planning can lead to disappointments and fights.
We found the right balance between planning and spontaneity and found our middle ground to be quite successful. Make sure you plan the big details and maybe leave some room during the trip for impulse decisions.
That is, one free afternoon, one free day. Finding something cool on the road and stopping to dazzle, that's really cool!
Create your itinerary! Travel itinerary
Don't focus on unimportant details
Who is in the aisle and who is in the middle? What time is dinner? Which direction should you walk to reach your destination? Where are you having dinner?
If that's not easy to decide, don't let them mess with your mood. There's no need to get hung up on the trivial details of the trip. There will be incredibly insignificant items that drop daily… so be patient and don't suffer!
Concern about life at home
There's a reason you go on vacation. To escape your home life, your everyday life. Turn off your phone, neglect social media, don't check your email, and just forget about your home life for a week or two.
When you get home, NOTHING will have changed. If your family and friends can't understand that you're on vacation and trying to spend quality time with your partner, they're not really your friends.
Focus on alone time with your significant other and have fun!
Disconnect from social networks
Every couple wants to be #CouplesGoals, but is it really worth the stress? We 1000% would rather have an amazing experience and no photos to show it than a bad experience and a bunch of photos showing us the time of our lives.
Yes, we took a lot of pictures for the Wenttrip, but it doesn't mean we leave photos and social media first. There are a lot of experiences that we have that are completely kept off of social media.
I often say that there are places that we pass by so quickly, that we only notice the enchanting details, looking at the photos. In other words, what was the point of really going to an amazing place if we couldn't enjoy it?! Today we can understand what this moment means 🙂
avoid arguing
Fighting in relationships is imperative and often okay. Important discussions that are neglected too often can become toxic, causing bigger problems.
So disagree while you're traveling and don't feel like you can't fight. Don't be the couple having a huge meltdown in a crowded square, but walk away and have an adult conversation with each other to work out your issues.
commit
Commitment is highly geared to the point of not being affected by unimportant details. Try to see things through your partner's eyes and make sure you make concessions where necessary.
It's hard when you have particular expectations, so try to let go of expectations and enjoy your journey with each other. If there are conflicting ideas and neither of you is willing to compromise, spend some time apart.
getting lost
You will get lost at some point while traveling with your partner, that's for sure, it's a fact! Even with data plans, the prevalence of Wi-Fi and Google Maps, you're bound to get lost at some point.
But hey, getting lost can be a fun adventure in and of itself. Find the positive side of this moment and know that there will always be a purpose for living this moment!
So go get lost with your best friend and have an amazing experience.
We've already lost ourselves in places that we were scared of and even from fear we laughed. An example was when we ended up in 51 area… it was fantastic, a sureal experience!
What did you think of our tips?
Have any of these cases happened to you? Share here, let's love to know!
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